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MY FIRST QUESTION AND INTERVIEW AFTER DECLARATION AS A PRESIDENTIAL ASPIRANT FOR BAELESS AND BOOLESS ASSOCIATION OF NIGERIA.

MY FIRST QUESTION AND INTERVIEW AFTER DECLARATION AS A PRESIDENTIAL ASPIRANT FOR BAELESS AND BOOLESS ASSOCIATION OF NIGERIA.

Presenter- President elect sir, what can a brother do if a lady is delaying on giving her consent for a relationship proposal.

Me- Hmmm, though we tell people and advised people not to take relationship issues to be extremely spiritual by adding carnal vibes to it.

Nevertheless, we shouldn’t downplay the place of engaging spiritual armory when necessary.

Presenter- What do you suggest for a brother in this kind of situation sir?

Me- I recommend that the brother prays 14- hours at stretch in the Holy Ghost on her matter and see the aftermath.

The brother will present her case before the court room of heaven but when I emerge as President, that won’t be necessary. The 10 Points agenda would cover for it.

Presenter- What would happen if the brother prays in such manner?

Me- Smiles, the sister would be seeing the brother everywhere ni oo if it’s God’s will. If she wants to watch T.V, the brother would appear on the screen. If she put on the radio, it’s the brother’s name she would hear.

Her phone wallpaper, social media profile display picture and status would change to the picture of the brother without her setting or uploading it.

If she sees her siblings, she would see the brother on their faces. If she cooks, she would see the brother appear in the pot.

If she wants to pray in tongues, she would be chanting the brother’s name uncontrollably.

Presenter- That’s serious sir, what would she do?

Me- serious indeed. If she doesn’t have panic disorder, she would reach the brother quickly to apologize for delaying and do the needful.

Presenter- if you don’t mind sir, how do you know this work?, did you do such? or have you done it before i.e pray for 14 hours at stretch on a sister’s matter.

Me- ha, I mind because I have mind ooo. Excuse me, I won’t answer that question and don’t ask me again. Even Jesus didn’t answer all questions of the Pharisees.

Any other question for the day?

Presenter- no sir but I’m not a Pharisee.

Me- Warefa, your president is here.

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O MY SISTER HEAR THE SIGNAL; THE SURPRISE IS ON THE WAY BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE

O MY SISTER HEAR THE SIGNAL; THE SURPRISE IS ON THE WAY BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE

Sister, that brother calls you often than he calls his parent and siblings but you said it doesn’t mean, he is just being nice. That kind of “niceness” is deep oh that he could skip his quiet time in the morning to have an hour of personal time with you on the phone.

He sends you airtime while he borrows airtime from his service provider to ring you if you got what he sent. He could do anything to please you but you feel he has no motive for these.

He takes you out for shopping, to see movies and sends you gifts on different occasion as a bid to win your heart but you think he is running a charity organization. If you think he is running a charity organization, hope you know and he knows you are not less privileged?

He introduced you to his mother on one of their family functions and his mum called you; “omo mi (my daughter)”. Lol, you think the old woman was saying that due to cultural attraction but she knows what she said from the signals she got that you failed to be sensitive to.

His friend calls you; “our sister” as they took you as their own but you concluded that everyone around him are just so nice.

You took his phone and saw yourself as the wallpaper but you said; “that’s so kind of you, let me give you more and better pictures”. He has over hundred of your pictures but only two of his mum. You concluded that all these doesn’t matter and he is just a friend with a different mindset. You are correct, there is a different mindset he has that you are about to be aware of.

He floods his social media timelines and statuses with your pictures when it’s not your birthday, he meant the smileys he uses but you feel; “what are friends for?”

You had a relationship talk with him and you asked him when he is likely to be engaged, he said soon. He told you he desires a lady like you and you responded with a free heart in sincerity; “may God grant you your heart desire”. He sees it as a confirmation and believed the prayer has been answered as he took a step of faith.

Suddenly, the anticipated day came when he invited you to the restaurant. You appeared alluring as usual but you wondered why he chose this restaurant of that status in town. You “cat-walked” step by step as he beholds you from afar and he couldn’t wait to declare his manifesto, he stood up to give you an ovation until you sat.

Everything is still appearing as drama to you as you wondered which role are you playing in the scene. You were amazed that the scene is a table for two and not the usual restaurant of table for five you usually visit with him. His outfit appeals to you more this time because he was well packaged than usual as you wondered why he was appearing in such manner just to have lunch with you.

His motive for having lunch with you is to launch into a relationship with you but you were not sensitive yet. The lunch began as you started eating the fried rice and chicken while he was looking closely at you. You have taken over ten spoon while he is yet to take one as he dropped the fork in the plate and looked at you the more.

You asked him why he wasn’t eating but he said he felt full immediately he saw you. You didn’t know that it was his love for you that made him full and out of the multitudes of his belly, his mouth will speak.

Then he called your name in a solemn manner, looked into your eyes and told you he loves you. You were filled with awe and you responded; ” hope you haven’t taking it too far, we both love ourselves as friends”. He told you not as just friends but as spouses in the long run.

You felt he just cracked your nuts, you never saw it coming, a bit worried and disappointed. You couldn’t finish your favorite meal again and you told him you have to go promising to see him later.

Sister, his approach may be wrong but he has an intention and you were playing along. You aren’t the only female friend he has that should deserve all those attentions if he doesn’t have an intention.

To be continued.

_Senior Advocate (Prophetic Romance Constituency), Association Of Baeless Single Brothers Of Nigeria._

LETTER TO MY BAE: CAN WE BE ‘CARNAL’ PLEASE? BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE

LETTER TO MY BAE: CAN WE BE ‘CARNAL’ PLEASE? BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE

Dear MasterQueen,

Let me play the ring tone to you again, “you know I love you and I will always do”. I can hear your sonorous voice in response to the statement and it sounds as if it’s your first time of saying it to me. My heart is resonating in thoughts while my brain is revolving round the statement in deep meditation.

Bae, I’m yet to figure out the status I was when I approached you to pronounce my conjugal manifesto in anticipation of the ultimate proposal that would penultimate my action to take you to the altar for the whole world to see that I got a good catch finding the bone of my bone.

I can’t say if I was in the spirit or flesh when I approached you but I think what happened had never happened to me before. I was in the spirit and in the flesh at the same time.

I was in the spirit because I knew I prophesied, all the revelational and vocal gifts were at work in me at the same time; the discerning of spirit, spirit of prophecy, word of knowledge and word of wisdom found great expression as I told you things that happened to me years ago that I didn’t know earlier and experiences that would happen to us in years to come after moments of speaking in tongues before approaching you.

Bae, not only were Revelational gifts of the spirit were at work that day, the power gifts were at stand by. I held to the gift of faith, if you give me a “red card” for my intentions, I will remain positive, keep the faith alive that better days are ahead and with God all things are possible. I was steadfastly with the gift of healing, if you broke my heart with your disposition that day, I would be able to heal my heart immediately.

Even the fruit of the spirit were also at play; I am “gentle”, I felt “peace”, I had “Joy” like a river, I am “humble” and ready to let go of myself and ego, I was ready for “longsuffering”, to be “patient” and to “endure” if you will keep me waiting or on hold for long. I had to check my “temperament” to agree with yours and I have decided to be “faithful” to my words as a “meek” dude that I am.

I was in the flesh as I felt nervous and lots of vibrations were occurring inside me at the same time. I was emotional and looking into your eyes answered the thousands of questions on my mind.

I told you that I like you and you said you like me too. I told you again that I love you and you said you love me, but with the love of Christ and I began to wonder if my own love is love of Dragon. I proposed to you to marry me and you said you need to pray about it. I hope my manifesto hasn’t turned you to a prayer warrior and intercessor?

Please don’t use the time we are supposed to start this experience that I’m anticipating to go on your knees and if you are praying to rebuke that spirit that led me to you, “kole wark oo”. I’m also praying and ready to stay on your matter.

Please, in case your answer is going to be YES. Also pray that Jesus won’t come here anytime soon oo. Because you and I will not join Him back ooo. We will take permission and travel to one Island, for our honeymoon.

After some months, they will give us direction how to meet them up there in heaven. I have read Bible front and back, I have not seen any where God said there will be honeymoon in heaven.

I know you will report me to your friends, mentors, spiritual and biological parents. Before you make your decision, think deeply on their advice and counsels. Don’t just anchor your decision on them but if I be a man of God, every counsel of Ahitophel would not stand. Please permit my prayer, I don’t know how it’s doing me again my dear.

For your friends, I may have offended one of them before unconsciously or one of them is eyeing me and sees this time as a pay back; your mentors don’t know me, they may have issues against my name and career which may influence their judgment; your parents may not like my tribe and pocket, this can result in them being biase with their advice.

Bae, I know marriage is a spiritual institution but we would not leave the carnal engagements unturned ooo. As we would concentrate and give attention to the spiritual we would also take our time on the carnal involvements too.

I know speaking in tongues would be the official language in our home, we would greet ourselves in tongues, pray together, prophesy together, study together, fast together, get revelations together, get visions and fall into trance together.

We will also be carnal together, play football and watch matches together, exercise together, cook together, grace occasions together, play together and so on. We would minister to ourselves in the spirit, also in flesh and blood.

We will both be active together in the “upper room” and in the “other room”. As the people of Israel appeared before the Lord and were not ashamed. We would appear before ourselves and know ourselves intimately, we would not be ashamed.

We would have regular intercourse in the glory realm, we would smile, speak in tongues, prophesy and catch visions about the seeds that would be conceived. When you conceive, I won’t say, “You are pregnant”, I would say; “We are pregnant” because intercourse is an action between two parties in agreement. We would both take all the responsibilities; the house chores, waking up at midnights, cooking and even delivering of our baby.

We won’t use personal or subjective pronouns for entities in our pocession. We would say; our houses, our cars, our children and so on.

MasterQueen, as we had proposed over time to make ourselves the first mentor to our children in ministry, finance, marriage and career, we would do all in our capacity to live the best of life we can.

Matching attires and outfits is not negotiable in many of our outings oo. We will make some of our outings fashion parade and our children would be the judge.

To be continued.

THAT WE ARE SINGLE DOESN’T MEAN SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH US Part 1 BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE

THAT WE ARE SINGLE DOESN’T MEAN SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH US Part 1 BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE

The aim of this article is not to actually give an excuse for being single neither is it to advertise my status to attract people to my present condition but to encourage others who are also in my shoes even though I’m planning to come out soon. I’m about to upgrade to that realm too.

I know there are many out there who think something is wrong with them for being single till now even when it appears that many around them are engaged, married and raising their children. Don’t worry that Mr. or Miss right is coming your way soon. Be discerning, time and chance happens to it all. 

Often, the reason why you feel something is wrong with you is because you compare yourself with others and listen to what others are saying. 

As for me, parents, friends, pastors, fathers and mothers in the faith have asked me how long will you remain in this status without a clue?

Some told me that I’m really in a confused state, I told them confusion is an under statement because sometimes, everywhere looks like the way and being surrounded with wonderful great minds of like passion is not helping my matter at all (Winks).

They told me, “you need to get engaged as soon as possible to avoid the temptations of seeing beautiful sisters as you go about with the ministry”, I replied that “getting engaged does not stop other sisters from being beautiful anywhere I go”. I’m yet to get a prove that ministrations can stop one’s beauty or volumes of itineraries of a minister could close down beauty shops in areas where he would visit.

They said I’m getting older by the day, I responded by saying “I don’t need a prophet to tell me that, the rate of the growth of my beard lately is enough”. I also need a confirmation that being in a relationship increases or reduces a man’s age.

They brought to my knowledge that marriage is very important in one’s quest to fulfilling destiny, I responded from what my beloved sister, Dr. Bien Sufficient taught me over the years “purpose is greater than marriage and of what use is my marriage if I’m drowning in the ocean of purpose”. The greatest discovery of a man after knowing who God is to him is purpose not his spouse to be (though it’s also very important to discover your future partner).

They reminded of the fact that there is a vacuum in my heart that if not filled as soon as possible, I might misbehave. I smiled and responded by saying, “the vacuum has been there since I was born while haven’t I been mishaving and why is it that there are folks who has filled their vacuum yet still misbehaving?”.

They said I might not be able to control my body from doing “gish gish” again if I continue on this status. I said “getting engaged or getting married is not the remedy to stop this, it our natural body reaction”.

Folks, please, if you see or know my Miss Right, tell her I won’t tarry long again and if she hears my request she shouldn’t harden her heart.

To be continued, follow closely.

ON RELATIONSHIP: NOT THOSE THAT DEMAND YOU BUT THE ONE THAT DESERVES YOU, SIMPLE LIKE A.B.C.D BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE


ON RELATIONSHIP: NOT THOSE THAT DEMAND YOU BUT THE ONE THAT DESERVES YOU, SIMPLE LIKE A.B.C.D BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE

Some folks have asked me lately about proposing to someone and they get a “no” for an answer while others said what if the person they desired is not showing any attraction.

Hmmm! I have my reservations though and I’m not a relationship expert as it appears. I’m even yet to really experience one and if they knew I wasn’t engaged, they would have understood they met the wrong person on the subject. Lol, it appears like the blind leading the blind.

These are my reservations;

TO MY BROTHER

A. Anyone that rejects you the way you are out of God’s will as a man gives your future spouse (wife) the opportunity to appreciate God for bringing a wonderful man like you her way if you have discovered purpose and on the quest of fulfilling it. Be of good cheer.

TO MY SISTER

B. Anyman you desire but not showing attraction signals that he is not for you, your “Prince Charming” is on the way. Don’t attract someone’s so you won’t fall in the wrong hand. You don’t have to let someone who shouldn’t be occupy your heart, that’s not how to prove that humans are “matter” and can occupy space. The scripture “occupy till I come” is for our soon King Jesus, not someone “occupy till He(your prince charming) comes”.

TO ALL

C. Purpose is greater than Marriage and marriage is a choice. God allowed Adam to have the understanding of his purpose and the assignment before him before the need of a help meet. Why are so worried to discover your spouse when you are yet to discover purpose?

If young people give attention to “purpose discovery” the way they give attention to “spouse discovery”, the world would have been better than this. Many ideas, innovations and inventions have been lost on the journey of relationship and marriage.

If young people can listen to messages and attend seminars on purpose the way they listen to messages and attend seminars on relationship, the population of young people that are mediocres would have been negligible by now.

And to those changing fiance and fiancees like clothes, I tell you “weldone sir and weldone ma”, if you have been changing your approach to your purpose like this, you would have made a headway.

I would rather remain a single fulfilling purpose than get engaged to someone when I have disengaged from purpose. Lol, but I want to have beautiful wife and wonderful kids too that why I have been working tirelessly to fulfill purpose maximaxilly.

I want to be an asset to my spouse and I want her to be the same. I don’t want to be a liability neither do I want her to be. Enough of my generation raising confused singles that are graduating to confused partners without a direction for their lives.

To some, their duration of being in a relationship to see whether it would work is equivalent to the time of having a MBBS degree. They are also doing “house job” by sleeping around in the home of each other after over seven years of being in a “cult-ship”. Many are doing something productive with their years, you are reducing yourself with something you don’t understand. Look at my lips as I do this “Smhhh”.

My friend by wise, it’s only a fool that blames others or a factor for his ignorance.

TO THOSE ENGAGED

D. If God is in it, it will work.  At this juncture, I’m not speaking to category of people that tells me they are engaged but not sure whether the person really want to marry them. I have answered them often to continue fooling themselves as pleasure toys and waste bins.

When it’s on a godly basis with a purpose in view, it will work. Stop comparing who you are engaged with to someone else’s spouse. Whatever you desire from him or her, let the person know. Build what and who your spouse to be constructively with mutual agreement.

Let me stop here, before some people crucify me. I hope with this few point I have been able to convince you and not confuse you to stay focus on your purpose and get connected to the one who deserves you and not demand you.

Thanks for reading. I know it’s worth a while and it’s on relationship, you love it. Please if God has told you who my spouse would be please help me tell her, I will meet her soon someday. Sooner than expected, we would get to know ourselves. It’s not that I don’t desire to look for her now but I also desire to settle some things at this season of my life, she would appreciate and admire me the more for this.

ON RELATIONSHIP: NOT THOSE THAT DEMAND YOU BUT THE ONE THAT DESERVES YOU, SIMPLE LIKE A.B.C.D BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE


ON RELATIONSHIP: NOT THOSE THAT DEMAND YOU BUT THE ONE THAT DESERVES YOU, SIMPLE LIKE A.B.C.D BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE

Some folks have asked me lately about proposing to someone and they get a “no” for an answer while others said what if the person they desired is not showing any attraction.

Hmmm! I have my reservations though and I’m not a relationship expert as it appears. I’m even yet to really experience one and if they knew I wasn’t engaged, they would have understood they met the wrong person on the subject. Lol, it appears like the blind leading the blind.

These are my reservations;

TO MY BROTHER

A. Anyone that rejects you the way you are out of God’s will as a man gives your future spouse (wife) the opportunity to appreciate God for bringing a wonderful man like you her way if you have discovered purpose and on the quest of fulfilling it. Be of good cheer.

TO MY SISTER

B. Anyman you desire but not showing attraction signals that he is not for you, your “Prince Charming” is on the way. Don’t attract someone’s so you won’t fall in the wrong hand. You don’t have to let someone who shouldn’t be occupy your heart, that’s not how to prove that humans are “matter” and can occupy space. The scripture “occupy till I come” is for our soon King Jesus, not someone “occupy till He(your prince charming) comes”.

TO ALL

C. Purpose is greater than Marriage and marriage is a choice. God allowed Adam to have the understanding of his purpose and the assignment before him before the need of a help meet. Why are so worried to discover your spouse when you are yet to discover purpose?

If young people give attention to “purpose discovery” the way they give attention to “spouse discovery”, the world would have been better than this. Many ideas, innovations and inventions have been lost on the journey of relationship and marriage.

If young people can listen to messages and attend seminars on purpose the way they listen to messages and attend seminars on relationship, the population of young people that are mediocres would have been negligible by now.

And to those changing fiance and fiancees like clothes, I tell you “weldone sir and weldone ma”, if you have been changing your approach to your purpose like this, you would have made a headway.

I would rather remain a single fulfilling purpose than get engaged to someone when I have disengaged from purpose. Lol, but I want to have beautiful wife and wonderful kids too that why I have been working tirelessly to fulfill purpose maximaxilly.

I want to be an asset to my spouse and I want her to be the same. I don’t want to be a liability neither do I want her to be. Enough of my generation raising confused singles that are graduating to confused partners without a direction for their lives.

To some, their duration of being in a relationship to see whether it would work is equivalent to the time of having a MBBS degree. They are also doing “house job” by sleeping around in the home of each other after over seven years of being in a “cult-ship”. Many are doing something productive with their years, you are reducing yourself with something you don’t understand. Look at my lips as I do this “Smhhh”.

My friend by wise, it’s only a fool that blames others or a factor for his ignorance.

TO THOSE ENGAGED

D. If God is in it, it will work.  At this juncture, I’m not speaking to category of people that tells me they are engaged but not sure whether the person really want to marry them. I have answered them often to continue fooling themselves as pleasure toys and waste bins.

When it’s on a godly basis with a purpose in view, it will work. Stop comparing who you are engaged with to someone else’s spouse. Whatever you desire from him or her, let the person know. Build what and who your spouse to be constructively with mutual agreement.

Let me stop here, before some people crucify me. I hope with this few point I have been able to convince you and not confuse you to stay focus on your purpose and get connected to the one who deserves you and not demand you.

Thanks for reading. I know it’s worth a while and it’s on relationship, you love it. Please if God has told you who my spouse would be please help me tell her, I will meet her soon someday. Sooner than expected, we would get to know ourselves. It’s not that I don’t desire to look for her now but I also desire to settle some things at this season of my life, she would appreciate and admire me the more for this.

THE CONVICTIONS BY Ezenwammadu Tochukwu Catherine


THE CONVICTIONS BY Ezenwammadu Tochukwu Catherine

I was having dessert with my husband at the dining table when he reminded me of a mistake we made while courting.

By the way, we had dropped our children at school today for the commencement of a new session. We watched as other children arrived too, some seemed excited, others looked indifferent, pairs of the opposite sex were at a distant yet open corner feeling quite intimate and exuberant and we guessed they are the ones in relationships. All these reminded us of our youthful days…

“I hope they don’t make the mistake we made babe”, my husband said while taking the last pineapple on his plate.

“What mistake?”, I said.

“The mistake of impure physical intimacy”, he replied.

This was the mistake that almost cost us our relationship and most importantly, our destiny…

During the early days of our relationship we were naive but willing to learn, we kept God at the center but that was only when we felt like…

On one of our anniversaries we decided to acknowledge God, spend time in prayers and sow seeds of thanksgiving to show how grateful we are for our relationship.

In the heat of the prayer James (my husband) and I began to cry, we didn’t know why but we knew we had to ask God for mercy for the sins we’ve committed.

“Nothing kills a relationship faster than physical intimacy”, I said this while tears rolled from my eyes, not knowing how those words left my lips.

“We’ve focused on the flesh and we’ve done nothing but compromise, Catherine we must totally surrender to God”, James spoke out suddenly.

The room became silent. All we knew was WE WERE BEING CONVICTED.

Our relationship was driven by Lust, Lack of understanding and Selfishness. There was no life in it, I mean the LIFE OF CHRIST.

Let me tell you how we ended arguments,

If I ever did anything wrong, it’s just a matter of a kiss and everything will be put aside.

We never had to fight, not when a simple cuddle can fix it.

We were so dependent on the flesh that we covered up our mistakes and shortcomings by sexual intimacy, we were indeed LOST!

I was rude but James couldn’t correct me, we could easily get carried away by a single act of an intimate touch.

James had issues with greed but i couldn’t correct him, I didn’t want him to be angry and not give me a peck before he dropped me off, yes! I was that selfish.

We were blinded by lust and we called it love, forgetting that love rejoiceth not in iniquity 1 Corinthians 13:6.

The conviction was over and now it was time for instructions from the HolySpirit. As we knelt down we knew exactly what He wanted, nothing but;

Repentance

Rededication

Redirection

RRR- We can never forget this.

“Lord”, James prayed, “We rededicate our lives and relationship into your hands, we choose to surrender to your will, we choose your word and we choose your principles. From today, this relationship of ours is a Jesus relationship and it is empty without you, we ask for grace to do your will and abstain from sin, Thank you Jesus for your endless love upon our lives, Thank You”.

What an amazing anniversary that was!, I hope you learn from our experience.

THE END.

Just before I end this post, I have some questions for you;

– Is the HolySpirit convicting you on any aspect of your life?

-Are you being corrected and instructed without you responding with obedience?

My dear, yield today and you will NEVER regret it,

May God bless every godly relationship and orchestrate the end to every ungodly relationship for His glory.

WE ARE BLESSED!

I am nothing but a blessed writer, no qualifications, no practice, no experience, just inspired by the most High God. Yes, I am blessed!