WOW!!! SO YOU WANT TO KILL YOURSELF BECAUSE SOMEONE DOES NOT LOVE OR APPROVE OF YOU? BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT
Now this is the most ridiculous thing I have heard in a long time. Thank God I was able to intervene before it happened. I am writing this article today because I feel this article might just help many others who might be going through similar situations now.
I met this very beauty young lady, a young 18yrs old girl who has attempted committing suicide twice and failed and was about making the third attempt before I met her. I could not think of anything that will make this beautiful little girl to be so bent on taking her own life.
I was so heartbroken when I heard it, that I decided to go out of my way to work with her. It wasn’t long for me to discover the sweet personality she had. She was very intelligent, smart, calm, loving and gentle. I fell in love with her personality and could not believe that such a wonder little girl you will think have everything going for her will want to end her own life.
She was a straight A-student, yet she had a terrible low self-esteem. Always seeking for approval and trying to please everyone that most of the people in her life began to take advantage of her. When I got talking to her, I discovered she never really got the affirmation she needed from her parents who were more interested in her academic performs than her feelings and desires to feel loved and be appreciated.
According to her, she has to be so focused on her academics because that is the only way she can get any praise from her parents. She became very good with her studies but yet was very empty on the inside. Her friends made fun of her, that she was a book worm and never had a social life. Because of their constant teasing, she became withdrawn into herself and never really had friends. She was an object of fun among her peers and as such was always by herself. One day she was approached by one of the boys in her school who professed an undying love for her.
It didn’t take time before she fell helpless in love with this boy. As long as she was concern, for the first time she is really meeting someone who truly loved her. Unknown to her was the fact that this relationship was leading no way. She became so attached to the boy emotionally and psychologically. She did practically everything for this boy she was in love with. But the boy dumped her for her classmate.
This left her so chattered that she believed there was no reason to live anymore as there was nothing to live for. This led her to attempting suicide twice and was about attempting the third one before I meant her. I pulled her close and began to show her love like she never knew was possible. I talked to her about self-love, the reason for life, discovering purpose, the ultimate love of God for her and before long she was delivered from the suicidal spirit and low self-esteem.
Today she has become an agent of change, making so much impact in the lives of other young people, her peers and adults alike. Her story has liberated so many other people who were suffering from the plague of low self-esteem. It is rather unfortunate but true that most times parents are the ones that push their kids into this condition unknowingly. I want to appeal to every parent, please have time for your children. Give them the affirmation they need and show them you love them unconditionally.
And to my young people, no one or circumstance is worth taking your life for. Learn to love yourself and know that you do not need the approval of anyone to be what God has created you to be in life. And above all, God loves you unconditionally and no one can love you like He does.