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WOW!!! SO YOU WANT TO KILL YOURSELF BECAUSE SOMEONE DOES NOT LOVE OR APPROVE OF YOU? BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT

WOW!!! SO YOU WANT TO KILL YOURSELF BECAUSE SOMEONE DOES NOT LOVE OR APPROVE OF YOU? BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT

Now this is the most ridiculous thing I have heard in a long time. Thank God I was able to intervene before it happened. I am writing this article today because I feel this article might just help many others who might be going through similar situations now.

I met this very beauty young lady, a young 18yrs old girl who has attempted committing suicide twice and failed and was about making the third attempt before I met her. I could not think of anything that will make this beautiful little girl to be so bent on taking her own life.

I was so heartbroken when I heard it, that I decided to go out of my way to work with her. It wasn’t long for me to discover the sweet personality she had. She was very intelligent, smart, calm, loving and gentle. I fell in love with her personality and could not believe that such a wonder little girl you will think have everything going for her will want to end her own life.

She was a straight A-student, yet she had a terrible low self-esteem. Always seeking for approval and trying to please everyone that most of the people in her life began to take advantage of her. When I got talking to her, I discovered she never really got the affirmation she needed from her parents who were more interested in her academic performs than her feelings and desires to feel loved and be appreciated.

According to her, she has to be so focused on her academics because that is the only way she can get any praise from her parents. She became very good with her studies but yet was very empty on the inside. Her friends made fun of her, that she was a book worm and never had a social life. Because of their constant teasing, she became withdrawn into herself and never really had friends. She was an object of fun among her peers and as such was always by herself. One day she was approached by one of the boys in her school who professed an undying love for her.

It didn’t take time before she fell helpless in love with this boy. As long as she was concern, for the first time she is really meeting someone who truly loved her. Unknown to her was the fact that this relationship was leading no way. She became so attached to the boy emotionally and psychologically. She did practically everything for this boy she was in love with. But the boy dumped her for her classmate.

This left her so chattered that she believed there was no reason to live anymore as there was nothing to live for. This led her to attempting suicide twice and was about attempting the third one before I meant her. I pulled her close and began to show her love like she never knew was possible. I talked to her about self-love, the reason for life, discovering purpose, the ultimate love of God for her and before long she was delivered from the suicidal spirit and low self-esteem.

Today she has become an agent of change, making so much impact in the lives of other young people, her peers and adults alike. Her story has liberated so many other people who were suffering from the plague of low self-esteem. It is rather unfortunate but true that most times parents are the ones that push their kids into this condition unknowingly. I want to appeal to every parent, please have time for your children. Give them the affirmation they need and show them you love them unconditionally.

And to my young people, no one or circumstance is worth taking your life for. Learn to love yourself and know that you do not need the approval of anyone to be what God has created you to be in life. And above all, God loves you unconditionally and no one can love you like He does.

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SO YOU WANT TO QUIT BECAUSE IS DIFFICULT? BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT

SO YOU WANT TO QUIT BECAUSE IS DIFFICULT? BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT

Life is not a bed of roses without its challenges. Everyone you see and admire today had to overcome one challenge or the other. Those who become success do not bow in the face of challenges. They are not quitters but fighters, they fight through it all. They are the ones that will always find a way where there seems to be no way. They do not take no for an answer.

I have made it my life goal and decision to never quit. That is one thing that can give you an edge over others. Stigability! Your ability to stand strong in the face of life Challenges and fight through it till you win its what will decide who you become in life and in the society at large.

If you want to make it a habit to quit at the face of every difficult situation, let it be known to you that you are signing a contract with failure. You are mortgaging your destiny and preparing yourself to be a nobody in the society. It is better to pay the price today for the better life you desire tomorrow.

Nothing good they say comes easily. If that is the case and you are shying away from everything that is not easy, it simply means, you are not going to get anything good. That something is difficult does not mean it cannot be done. Instead of finding one thousand reasons why it cannot be done, find one reason why it can be done.

When you fight your battles without quitting, it helps to mold you to a better person. You develop a stronger personality with strong muscles to face life squarely and win. Do not let the fear of failure cripple you from starting. Get to work on yourself and push through it.

You will win if you do not quit. Quitting should never be an option for you. The moment you do not have it as an option, your mind will get to work to provide you with the necessary ideas you will need to overcome or able you to do the task ahead of you.

When you quit, you let your brain shoot down. But when you continue to push, you open up your brain to tremendous creative ideas that will move you from one level to the other. Those who learn not to give up in difficult situations and circumstances in life are those who we celebrate because they will eventually win.

Don’t say it is impossible when you have not giving it your all. Don’t give up because you think you have done your best without a solution. Sometimes what will call our best is not good enough. If need be, seek for help but don’t give up. Ask for advice, ask for direction, ask for strategy from others but never give up or give in.

Know this, anything that has been done in life before is doable. It definitely might not be easy but if you stay committed to your dream, you will surely bring it to pass. See you on top.

THE MYTH; WEARING MAKEUP, JEWELRIES AND TROUSERS WILL SEND YOU TO HELL BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT


THE MYTH; WEARING MAKEUP, JEWELRIES AND TROUSERS WILL SEND YOU TO HELL BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT

Sometime back, a very “holy brother” wrote me a disturbing message. Disturbing not because it affected me in anyway but because it exposed the level of ignorance this brother was living in. It is not as though this was the first time I was getting this kind of message, but the kind of passion and zeal without knowledge this one came with was what made it disturbing to me.

I got to discover that this brother was actually sending this message with all seriousness thinking he was trying to save me from hell. I decided not to respond to him because I knew he didn’t know any better. But when I didn’t respond, he got offended and decided to come back at me stronger with a recorded voice message.

In the recorded message he sent, he said “you are a disappointment to God, you are a disgrace, you preach sexual purity and keeping virginity till marriage but you are a prostitute. You cannot tell me you are still a virgin when you wear trousers, makeup and jewelry. Your hair-do is like those of the world and you are heading straight to hell if you don’t repent”.

Now this happened over two years ago, then I was still single. But I am writing about it today because of a write up written by someone else who claimed all those wearing trousers are going to hell. I will not mention anybody’s name, but I want to clear the air of ignorance I can see so many people are still living in today, especially in Africa.

Firstly, there is nowhere in the bible that said those who wear trousers, make up and jewelries are going to hell. Stop taking scriptures out of proportion to back up your ignorance. Rather “study to show yourself approved unto God, a workman that needs not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth” 2 Timothy 2:15.

I do not have any problem with those who do not want to wear trousers, make up and jewelries. It is totally your choice. Just because you choose to live that way, it does not mean every other person should follow suit. You have no right to condemn another person just because they have different choices from yours.

Christianity is a personal race. It is a relationship and not some bundles of “dos and don’ts”. Enough of the ignorance already! Before you open your mouth to disprove someone or condemn anything, make sure you have done your due diligence in studying about the subject and knowing the truth for yourself not just what someone told you.

This “holy brother” took to calling me names because he claims he was trying to save me from hell. Wow! Isn’t that very interesting coming from a holy person on his way to heaven? Hahahahaha let me laugh before I forget. What a high level of ignorance! Ignorance indeed is a disease.

He said I was a prostitute, but I married my husband a virgin. Why am I talking about this, I know there are so many other ladies out there that might be having this same stigmatization especially in Africa my motherland, because of their dress code preferences.

What I believe in, however, is modesty. Dress decently and neatly. Christianity is not synonymous with dirtiness, untidiness or being unkempt. Stop putting unnecessary weights on people like the Pharisees and Sadducees because of your lack of knowledge.

Dear ladies, do not let the ignorance of others weigh you down. When people tell you things like this, don’t let it bother you. Instead pity the person living and speaking ignorantly. You do not even need to respond to them. Allow them to swim in their ocean of ignorance.

It is high time we encouraged people to build a strong personal relationship with God and stop handing them religion. Some bundles of “dos and don’ts”. Let God work in the life of people and stop being a dictator. Don’t wear this, wear that. Please sirs and madams, is that part of the ministry God gave you too?

On the last day we will know who is going to hell indeed. If it is you who has no personal relationship with God, no fruit of the spirit, no love, full of judgmental attitude or is the person that wears trousers, make ups and jewelries.

Run your race and leave others to run theirs. IT IS A PERSONAL RACE!!! I love you all whether you wear trousers, make ups and jewelries or not.

WISDOM IS PROFITABLE TO DIRECT!!!

YOU CAN’T STOP PEOPLE FROM HAVING AN OPINION ABOUT YOU, BUT DON’T LET THEIR OPINION BECOME YOUR REALITY. BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT


YOU CAN’T STOP PEOPLE FROM HAVING AN OPINION ABOUT YOU, BUT DON’T LET THEIR OPINION BECOME YOUR REALITY. BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT

Do not blame the people who do not believe in you, for they are only acting based on what they know and the reality they have in their lives. 

When someone tells you, you can’t do something or that is not possible; what the person is actually saying is I can’t do it, it’s not possible for me. So you see, it has nothing to do with your ability or inability but it has everything to do with their world view. This is the very reason why you should not border about the negative opinion of others about you. Don’t let the opinion of any human being become your own reality no matter who the person is.

When I gained admission to study in Eastern Europe, I was told by several people to forfeit it because I won’t be able to finance it. I will never forget how disappointed I was, when someone I really thought will help me turned me down. In the person’s words “If I help you in your first year in school, who will help you in your second, third, fourth, fifth and sixth year in school? Just forget about it, you don’t have what it takes to study abroad financially.

Even though I was so devastated by this person’s opinion, I never allowed it to become my reality. Not only did I succeed in securing my admission, went through my first year but I finished my sixth year and graduated debt free. Did I had difficulties and hard times in those years? Oh yes! So many of them. But was it possible? Definitely yes, it was possible.

In life, most times those who you think should help you are not always those who gets to help you. Therefore never put your trust in any man. Trust in God alone, work hard and the sky will be your starting point. You Are Unstoppable!!!

LOVE FOUND US BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT


LOVE FOUND US BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT

We were broken dejected and abandon to die. Everything in life worked against us.

We became prisoners to satan, carrying a heavy weight that we know not where it came from.

We were sinners not because we have committed any sin, but just by the fact that we were conceived through the human blood.

Yes we were subjected to the sinful nature because a man sold the birthright of all humanity to the devil.

Even though man was still alive walking, but he was dead spiritually. Man became a walking corpse with no relationship with his Creator

Because man lost his relationship with God, he lost touch of love which was God. Yes God is love!

The loss of love from the life of man was the beginning of the problem of man. Death, sickness, pain, difficulties, murder, crime, became part and parcel of the life of man.

Crippled with so many burdens, bend over by the weight of his actions man was helpless under his weight. He could not help himself.

Love (God) was touched by the condition of man. He put a plan in place for his restoration.

Love (God) sent his son into the world in the form of a man to restore man back to Himself.

He took your place and my place, paid the price for our crime and restored us back to life, a relationship with the father.

Yes love found us. Love picked us up from condemnation and gave us a righteous stand with God.

Only in God can you find such a true love. Yes no human can ever love you like He loves you.

Human beings may profess an undying love for you, just because of who they think you are, what they think they can get from you, the beautiful qualities they think you have or your beautiful looks etc.

The moment they discover your weakness or any of your short comings they withdraw from you, all of a sudden love dies.

But there is one man who knows you more than any human being on the earth. He knows you even more than you know yourself. He knows all your short comings, weakness, insecurities, your struggles, yet he loves you as though you were perfect.

He loves you with all your imperfections, died a shameful death on the cross for you, while you and I were still sinners.

Do you really understand the cost, the price He paid for you and me? Oh he didn’t pay this price because we were righteous but while we were yet sinners Christ died for us.

His love is the reason why we are here today

His love restored us back to God

His love restored us from the bondage of sin

His love brought back hope to the hopeless situation of man

His love is the reason we are alive today

His love is the reason we our Christians today.

Without Christ, there will be no Christians, there will be no Church, there will be no true redemption from sin, and there will be no restoration for man.

Yes love found us! For God’s perfect love is our only foundation for salvation. He is the only one that can love you perfectly and eternally without any fear of betrayer.

Have you been betrayed by the one you love?

Did someone you loved abandon you?

Are you in pains for the loss of a love one?

Do you need love? Do you want someone to love you unconditionally?

If yes, then I will like to introduce you to someone whose love is perfect and permanent. It never fails it never gives up.

His name is Jesus!!! Get a hold of Jesus today and all your pains and empties will be filled with the love that can come from only Him.

Get a deep understanding of His love and live in the consciousness of His love.

For no one can love you like He does! He is love personified!!

Embrace Him and give your life a new meaning!!!

Let’s live in the consciousness of His undying love as we celebrate His death and resurrection in this season.

God is love!!! Jesus is love personified!!!

STOP CHASING MARRIAGE! PURSUE YOUR PURPOSE!! BY DR. BIEN SUFFICIENT

STOP CHASING MARRIAGE! PURSUE YOUR PURPOSE!! BY DR. BIEN SUFFICIENT

Marriage is not your primary purpose for living, so why chase marriage when you have not discovered your purpose, talk more of pursuing it? If you do not discover your purpose before you get married, then marriage will become a burden instead of a blessing.

As much as marriage is an important institution for the prepared, it can also be a disaster or destruction to the unprepared. Marriage is not what will give you fulfillment in life. If you go into marriage, expecting marriage to bring you fulfillment and fill all your emptiness, then that is the beginning of your life in delusion.

If you do not have what to offer, then marriage is not a place for you to go. Until you are single and independent, until you can be happy all by yourself, you are not ready for marriage. You don’t go into marriage, believing your partner will be your source of happiness.

You have to know that marriage is a part of life, but is never compulsory. It is an institution you can choose to be a part of when you are ready or not if you are not ready. Take note of the phrase “when you are ready”, not when the society says so, but when you know you are ready and matured enough to live with another person successfully.

Maturity though, has got nothing to do with age, so you don’t just run into marriage because you think you are of age. The question is; do you have what it takes? Are you ready to go into marriage to give or you want to go into marriage to receive? If you are in the latter category, then you are going to be greatly disappointed.

The most important part of it all is that, God is not going to ask you on the last day, who did you marry? But what did you do? What did you do with all the talents I gave to you? What did you do with all the gifts I gave to you? Did you fulfill the purpose for which I created you?

Based on what you did on the earth you will be judged in eternity. Not because you were married/not married or who you were married to. So wake up from that deception you are in and begin to pursue your purpose. Your purpose is far more important than marriage. You were born with your purpose. Fulfilling your purpose in life is mandatory. You do not have the right to choose if you will fulfill purpose or not. God demands that you fulfill purpose but marriage is totally your choice to decide.

If you can just get this straight, it will straighten a lot of things out for you and for your life. If you will only pursue your purpose and begin to fulfill it, every other thing you desire will be added unto you. “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and its righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you” Matthew 6:33.

I hope this article blesses you and helps you to put everything about your life in perspective. Don’t just follow the crowd. Don’t just do things because everybody else is doing it. Whatever you do, make sure you do it out of your conviction. Let knowledge, understanding and wisdom be your watch word. GOD BLESS YOU!!!

Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT IS A YEAR OLDER TODAY; MY BIRTHDAY WISH TO MY WONDERFUL Dr. BY OLAWADE DAVID

Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT IS A YEAR OLDER TODAY; MY BIRTHDAY WISH TO MY WONDERFUL Dr. BY OLAWADE DAVID

“What you want in a mentor is someone who truly cares for you and who will look after your interests and not just their own. When you do come across the right person to mentor you, start by showing them that the time they spend with you is worthwhile.” -Vivek Wadhwa

Ever since I had the privilege to know and associate with this great woman of faith, Dr. Bien Sufficient, my life experienced a quantum leap I could ever imagine. I am always amazed at your bravery, courage, expertise and dexterity. Sometimes deep inside of me I say to myself, if we could have quite a number of ladies exhibiting your lifestyle, the world would have been better than this.

YOU STARTED EARLY.

With the knowledge I have about your growing up, I discovered that you started approaching life with the right orientation early enough. I imagined you at age 5 speaking in tongues and preaching at a crusade at age 10, not everyone had that privilege.

This signals to me that you made the decision and determined to stand out as a lad. 

YOU OVERCAME THE STORMS OF LIFE.

I could imagine you as a teenager then when you were in that village hawking to make ends meet. I could picture you walking those miles to get to school and assisting your younger ones with your labours to put them through issues of life you faced with them.

Now the girl that hawks in a small village in Rivers state, Nigeria is now a lady of impact, a certified medical doctor from Ukraine to Texas, U.S.A.

YOU ARE DESPERATE FOR SUCCESS.

I imagine you not giving up on your dream on being a medical doctor until you got a scholarship to study medicine in Europe. It takes desperation and determination to achieve this. Passing medical exams and graduating as a medical doctor in a foreign country where you have to learn the language and write in the language takes a whole lot of discipline.

YOU ARE A MISSIONARY

I find it difficult to believe that an 100 level student could be in a foreign land and plant a church. You did it and the church has grown with numbers of branches.

It takes a great burden to visit different countries across the globe for the gospel sake. You have released yourself to be used by God to take the good news to the nations of the earth.

YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION TO MANY.

You inspire many (including me), in your workouts, your generosity, and your willingness to lend a helping hand in any given situation! You are truly unique and deserve the respect that comes with accomplishing so much with so little. You are an endless source of inspiration for the people in your life who knows and love you.

Your write ups, books and publications are blessing lives across the globe. You are a role model, life coach and mentor to many. 

I remember when I told you I would be writing an exam, december last year. I know you were always concern about all that concerns me a d this was part of the motivation I had that made come out with an outstanding result. I had it on mind that if I didn’t do well in the exam, you would ask me and you might not welcome my shortcoming.

Sometimes when I want to compromise on major issues of life, when my mind goes to having you around me, I take necessary adjustments because I know I may have to report it to you or you ask me yourself.

Thanks for all you made yourself to me, thanks for the counsels, chastisements and encouragements.

MY WISH TO YOU MA

It’s my desire that you raise more young ladies of excellence and impact across the globe as God would be helping you.

Keep on impacting your world, blazing the trail and setting the pace. You are an epitome of excellence.

Happy Birthday to the most amazing woman in the world! You are such an amazing mother, mentor, and friend and I am so lucky to be able to look up to you for inspiration and encouragement!

I hope this day brings you as much joy as you bring people day in and day out! Thanks for always being such an inspiration to those around you, and always loving people for who they are!

Thank you for being my hero, mentor, and friend. I love you so very much and hope I can make your day as special as you have made my life!