DON’T LET THE HONEYMOON END BY WARI EKI
At the beginning of every relationship, there is what is referred to as “the honeymoon period”. This is the point where the love is new, sparks are flying, everything is perfect, and they cant get enough of each other.
Showing their love is as easy as breathing and their love is the most important thing in their lives. Sometime down the line however, things begin to cool down. The love is still there, but the flames that marked the beginning of the relationship have settled down into gentle embers. They have to work to fan these embers to keep the fire burning, if not it goes out completely.
They may still care for each other and do all the right things, but the fervor and intensity that marked the beginning of their relationship is gone. At this stage, problems start in the relationship, and ultimately, it comes to an end. I cannot count how many relationships I have seen end because “the spark died”.
The church in Ephesus had the same problem. They still did all the right things. They worked hard, did not tolerate evil, suffered for Christ, but in the midst of all of this, Jesus wasn’t happy. What was the problem? Jesus said, “you don’t love me or each other AS YOU DID AT FIRST” (V4, NLT).
He wasn’t saying they didn’t love Him, He knew they did. His problem was that the intensity of their love had dimmed. Their actions were good, but He was more concerned about the state of their hearts. He was saddened by the fact that their love had grown cold.
This shows that even if we’re going through the motions and working for God, He is looking into our hearts and assessing the intensity of our love for Him because in the end, that is what truly matters.
The solution for relationships in which the sparks have died is usually along the lines of “remember why you fell in love in the first place, and take out time to do the things you did at the beginning of the relationship for each other”.
Jesus gives a similar solution to the church here. He says, (v5);
Remember from what height you have fallen: think back to how it was in the beginning when you first gave your life to Him. How much you craved and longed for Him, how you always wanted to spend time with Him, how you couldn’t get enough of Him.
Repent: repentance isn’t a one-off act; the entire life of a believer is to be one of repentance. It’s a change of mind from being self-dependent to being God-dependent. It is a conscious decision to put God back at the center of our lives and to stop looking elsewhere for our sense of purpose and fulfillment.
Do the works you did previously: the things you did in the beginning, begin to do again. Begin to read your bible again; begin to pray again. Begin to love again.
Most importantly, we must continually fan the flames of our love for Him, and work at not becoming complacent in our walk with Him.