Some folks have asked me lately about proposing to someone and they get a “no” for an answer while others said what if the person they desired is not showing any attraction.
Hmmm! I have my reservations though and I’m not a relationship expert as it appears. I’m even yet to really experience one and if they knew I wasn’t engaged, they would have understood they met the wrong person on the subject. Lol, it appears like the blind leading the blind.
These are my reservations;
TO MY BROTHER
A. Anyone that rejects you the way you are out of God’s will as a man gives your future spouse (wife) the opportunity to appreciate God for bringing a wonderful man like you her way if you have discovered purpose and on the quest of fulfilling it. Be of good cheer.
TO MY SISTER
B. Anyman you desire but not showing attraction signals that he is not for you, your “Prince Charming” is on the way. Don’t attract someone’s so you won’t fall in the wrong hand. You don’t have to let someone who shouldn’t be occupy your heart, that’s not how to prove that humans are “matter” and can occupy space. The scripture “occupy till I come” is for our soon King Jesus, not someone “occupy till He(your prince charming) comes”.
C. Purpose is greater than Marriage and marriage is a choice. God allowed Adam to have the understanding of his purpose and the assignment before him before the need of a help meet. Why are so worried to discover your spouse when you are yet to discover purpose?
If young people give attention to “purpose discovery” the way they give attention to “spouse discovery”, the world would have been better than this. Many ideas, innovations and inventions have been lost on the journey of relationship and marriage.
If young people can listen to messages and attend seminars on purpose the way they listen to messages and attend seminars on relationship, the population of young people that are mediocres would have been negligible by now.
And to those changing fiance and fiancees like clothes, I tell you “weldone sir and weldone ma”, if you have been changing your approach to your purpose like this, you would have made a headway.
I would rather remain a single fulfilling purpose than get engaged to someone when I have disengaged from purpose. Lol, but I want to have beautiful wife and wonderful kids too that why I have been working tirelessly to fulfill purpose maximaxilly.
I want to be an asset to my spouse and I want her to be the same. I don’t want to be a liability neither do I want her to be. Enough of my generation raising confused singles that are graduating to confused partners without a direction for their lives.
To some, their duration of being in a relationship to see whether it would work is equivalent to the time of having a MBBS degree. They are also doing “house job” by sleeping around in the home of each other after over seven years of being in a “cult-ship”. Many are doing something productive with their years, you are reducing yourself with something you don’t understand. Look at my lips as I do this “Smhhh”.
My friend by wise, it’s only a fool that blames others or a factor for his ignorance.
TO THOSE ENGAGED
D. If God is in it, it will work. At this juncture, I’m not speaking to category of people that tells me they are engaged but not sure whether the person really want to marry them. I have answered them often to continue fooling themselves as pleasure toys and waste bins.
When it’s on a godly basis with a purpose in view, it will work. Stop comparing who you are engaged with to someone else’s spouse. Whatever you desire from him or her, let the person know. Build what and who your spouse to be constructively with mutual agreement.
Let me stop here, before some people crucify me. I hope with this few point I have been able to convince you and not confuse you to stay focus on your purpose and get connected to the one who deserves you and not demand you.
Thanks for reading. I know it’s worth a while and it’s on relationship, you love it. Please if God has told you who my spouse would be please help me tell her, I will meet her soon someday. Sooner than expected, we would get to know ourselves. It’s not that I don’t desire to look for her now but I also desire to settle some things at this season of my life, she would appreciate and admire me the more for this.