WHERE ARE YOUR CRITICS?; WHEN CRITICISM BECOMES A BLESSING BY OLAWADE DAVID.
“The pleasure of criticizing takes away from us the pleasure of being moved by some very fine things.” – Jean de La Bruyère
I knew since I was a child that no one can stop me, I can only stop myself and since I gave my life to Christ, I had another understanding that even demons can’t. I can only stop myself by opting out of God’s plan for my life.
When people tell me; “you will go far”, I say to myself am not surprised because I know It and I had seen it. Whether people wish you well, encourages you or not. Keep pressing, people’s acts should not outrightly be the factor that determines your life or progress.
Years ago as a growing up lad when I don’t really relate with people, I did alot of personal study on people’s attitudes, behavior and character. (You can read the article “THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMITS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE). I learnt a lot and still learning. There are some mindsets people have by default that they really need to disengage. Sometimes we need to unlearn somethings to learn better things.
All that I would discuss on this article, you might not totally agree with it and you might understand some later. It’s my own tested and proven perspective. Everyone has his own ideology but we need to unlearn some.
We need to step up and not allow people’s comments weigh us down or limit us because 90% of it are burn out of envy. If I gave attendance to what people said about me years ago including so called men of God and friends, I would have been drown in d ocean of depression and mediocrity. I know where they are speaking from and why they say what they say.
Many that accused and criticized us years ago are nowhere to be found. We can’t see them. They can’t keep pace with us again. What if we had allowed them ruin our life. We might not have seen them again or we would have been down together.
Life will never be easy for men who takes things easy with their endeavours. While I was in secondary school, my class mates and my teachers would say, you read too much and too ambitious, take it easy. Thanks to God that I didn’t give in to their counsel, I made it a spring board and a launching pad to do more.
WHY BLOW YOUR TRUMPET? THE TRUMPET BELONGS TO ME.
“If we judge ourselves only by our aspirations and everyone else only their conduct we shall soon reach a very false conclusion.” – Calvin Coolidge
We are in a generation where people consider mediocrity as humility. Many said I do too much but my take has been “a man needs to do too much to go too far beyond expectations”.
One can not be a faultfinder and be a pathfinder at the same time. You would rather be one. Mind you, we don’t write or preach what we haven’t done or experienced. If we write and talk on purpose, we can write it confidently because we have discovered purpose. If we preach on the supernatural, we are confident of the encounters and experiences.
There are volumes of things that people really still don’t know about us. There are ongoing plans that no one has heard of neither is there a bit of it publicized. Things we share or post are just fragments of our intentions that people need and desires to know. People would be making a big mistake if they thing we have shared all of who we are. There are experiences, dealings and testimonies that we can even share for general consumption.
“To become a better you, secure your dreams from the jaws of people who discredit your ambitions.” – Israelmore Ayivor
We should use the critisms and people’s false comments about us to learn how to response to people when we step further to the bigger picture.
If people are already saying we are blowing our trumpet at this stage, it should amuse us seriously. Mind you, the trumpet belongs to us and we didn’t lend it. The question we should ask our critics is “where is your own trumpet, did we lend your trumpet”. If our acts and progress at the moment is qualified as a trumpet, that means we still have a shofar which is louder than a trumpet in our custody that is about to be blown.
PROGRESS IN SILENCE; THE LAW OF INDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES
“I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him; it is what he thinks of himself. To undermine a man’s self-respect is a sin.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery
As I have always said and believe. I appreciate people’s progress in silence. Some even share there experience personally with me and am amaze at their progress even when they don’t publicize it.
That is individual differences. When I spoke about those that I don’t see around me now, am not saying they have missed it in d place of destiny as u may think. I also don’t mean I have erased them from my life because in one way or the other they have actually contributed to my life. What I meant was that if I had allowed their words discourage me, they might not be close to me again to encourage me or to know what there actions might have cost me..
I have friends in the faith that are making volumes of impacts and relevance in silence that I am aware of and we keep contact without barriers of personality differences.
I think giving an example would help this discussion.
There is a friend of mine whose name I won’t mention for posterity sake. She has written books. I was privileged to publish one of her book online for her. He has published several magazines that is blessing lives put she is not really put most of this stuffs online because she has her reasons and targets.
She just rounded up with her m.sc in the U.K weeks ago with the conferment of the course. She only told few people she was in the U.K for over a year now, no public post except few on WhatsApp.
She is improving and touching lives. She told me something of recent that amazed me. She said she understands the projects I have been doing lately and it must have been challenging that in anyway she could be of help in publishing, editing or writing I should let her know but she loves to work in silence. She understands my person of always keeping updates online of what I do. I understood her person and she understands my peculiarity. We have been faithful to our friendship over the years.
Another person is my childhood friend whom I coauthored an article with of recent. She runs two blogs now. She has her target audience. She does not really publicize her blog as Masterpiece does. I understand her and she understands Masterpiece’s plan too.
“The highest level that can be reached by a mediocre but experienced mind is a talent for uncovering the weaknesses of those greater than itself” – Georg Christoph Lichtenberg
I can just continue to give examples. There are also some of my friends too that publicizes there projects, progress and plans than I do. They are fulfilling destiny, I am aware of it and I celebrate them. Some of them have attained levels and dimensions I haven’t even imagined. I appreciate them and learn from them.
Scriptures say “let everyman abide in the call therein he is called”, the atmosphere is wide enough for birds to fly without contact or fight for space. The need of humanity is so much for one man to handle. The solutions the world needs are enormous for one man to think he only wants to be the champion. Let’s arise and stop wasting time on criticizing those that are making head ways. The time can be used for things that are more productive.
There are still scarcities of kingdom labourers and there are still scarcities of world changers across d globe. No matter the investments I make in my life, I can’t do everything and be everywhere. I need to celebrate those that have arose, still rising and help those that are about to rise for societal, national and global impact and relevance.
VALUE YOUR CRITICS DESPITE THEIR ACCUSATIONS AGAINST YOU.
In conclusion, Akpan Uboho wrote;
Friends are here to help and support you. Anytime, WE have differing opinions and you know you’re in the right, kindly try to explain that No, that’s not how it is and not get critical, flary and defensive and all….maybe the people you claim left you and are nowhere to be found left not because they were envious, but because of the way you responded to them. And you can never conclude on anyway being NOWHERE to be found. You just don’t know what God is doing in their lives presently.
Everyone knows that a snail with direction is better than a Kangaroo with speed. So, instead allowing people FALL OUT of your life, just because you think they are not ambitious or supportive or what, just let them be. Not everyone will be popular worldwide Christians and in fact, being a popular worldwide preacher does not equate to success. Paul was popularly known, but Andrew wasn’t and that does not make any of them less in the fulfillment of God’s call in their lives.
I’m sure there you know there is something called the Ministry of Helps. There are silent labourers in the church who are holding up the popular ones even without their knowledge. So, just because people are not heard does not belittle them. It is only in our society that preachers are brainwashing us with the word mediocrity. Anyway, i’m not surprised. When people are drinking, eating and sleeping on one man’s line of thought, they will all think the same.
We are all in this christian race together. We have misconceptions, faulty beliefs n opinions that rub in or rub off with our relationships. People are our greatest assets and not otherwise. Many people are faithful and pray for your success. Don’t lose such people and stick to sycophants and men of God who claim to inspire you but will end up using you. Even the Bible warns us against foolish philosophies and high-sounding nonsense. Apostle Paul said a lot about human wisdom and how it is mistaken for God’s kind of wisdom. Remember, he uses the foolish and base things to confound the wise. I know you will not enjoy this my message but I better say it now than later. I rest my case.