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PART 5- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMIT OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE By Olawade David

PART 5- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMIT OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE By Olawade David

SELFISHNESS By AKPAN UBOHO

What limits most relationships is the issue of selfishness. Most times, we miss out on great friendships and partnerships because we are selfish, insensitive and unsupportive. Actually, the last three (3) points have shown how others act towards us.

This conclusive point is a call to you, my dear readers, to have a good introspection of the present as well as the lost relationships. Were you supportive, caring, sensitive and selfless enough to be there for the friend? As earlier said, remove the beam from your eyes before noticing the speck in another’s eye.

Prayerfully and sincerely consider some character traits in you that have thwarted past friendships and make necessary adjustment and restitutions if need be.

On a final note, never badmouth your friend or else you will grow old alone…

CONCLUSION BY OLAWADE DAVID

All these have polluted our relationship and hindered our progress in fulfilling destiny. Enough of pretence and deceit. Enough of finding faults in people; you can’t be a fault finder and be a pathfinder. Why trying to remove the log in someone’s eye when you have a beam in yours? Why question someone’s character when you haven’t dealt with your own weaknesses?

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PART 4- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMIT OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE By Olawade David

PART 4- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMIT OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE By Olawade David

FALSE ACCOMODATION.

“People tend to present themselves hospitable to you when they think they are better than you”.

Many times, the human nature has robbed us of our manifestation of divine nature. There was a kind of love the apostles exhibited during the early church that none exalted himself over his neighbor.

They were hospitable, they broke bread together and they were in harmony. They synergized irrespective of the diversity they had as individuals.

Surprisingly, the people around us love to stretch forth their hands of hospitality when they feel they are better than us. Anytime they notice your progress, they withdraw their hand of hospitability.

The heart of man is clustered with contention for competition. People always desire to be better than their neighbours and see themselves as the best people for a particular task.

Many a time people say the prayer; “Lord send forth labourers for the harvest” but in their heart, they say, “Lord, let me be the only one worthy to be used”. How do you feel when your friend being mightily used by God? What comes to your when you consider the visions and talents of your friend? We want to have the biggest ministry. We want to record the highest influence. We want to challenge the status quo in a field so that we can make name for ourselves. No one wants to work as an assistant.

Everyone wants to be the front liner that is why we have the uprising of different ministries today. Everyone wants to be the boss.

What transpires in your heart when you see your friend leading a session of a program or event? To some people they wish they were the ones to handle the task. Some say in their heart “I would have done in better”. To others, they desire the mistake of their friend on the task even when their facial expression bids him well but their heart remains against. Where do you fall? What going through your mind even as you read this article? Are you looking for the writer’s error or you feel you should not have read it because it is striking a cord in your intent?

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PART 3- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMITS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE Co-authored by Olawade David and Dr. Bien Sufficient

PART 3- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMITS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE Co-authored by Olawade David and Dr. Bien Sufficient

FALSE ATMOSPHERE
“We tend to see ourselves in an atmosphere of enmity when our headway among our company becomes visible”.

When Joseph’s headway among his brothers began to show forth, they started to envy him. It later turned to hatred and finally they had thoughts to kill him. His brothers would have thought they loved him until when his headway became visible; the true intent of their heart came forth,
“And his brethren ENVIED HIM; but his father observed the saying”- Gen. 37:11.
“And when they saw him afar off, even before he came near unto them, they CONSPIRED AGAINST HIM TO SLAY HIM”- Gen. 37:18.

It was as a result of Joseph sharing his dreams with his brothers that the envy in them erupted. Many a times, it is when we begin to share our dreams, goals, visions and purpose with our friends that we will truly know those who love us. Many will become jealous and envious, when such animosity gets to the peak; they hurt you or stop being around you. Some will accuse you of being proud or too ambitious.

Many people have left me today as a result of what God is leading me to do and what God is helping me to achieve. I thank God for them for bringing me to the consciousness that I am progressing in my quest of following God and fulfilling destiny maximally.
Joseph’s brothers hated him more as he talked more about his dreams. I made a statement sometime ago:

Anyone who is envious or angry with my present progress would soon die of high blood pressure if he or she remains around me because I have not started, and I am still far from the reality of what God has planned for me to do on earth”.

I am glad to let you know that many of the people that surround you are still around you because they have not caught a glimpse of the reality of your dreams and purpose. That should signal to you that you are not progressing neither are you standing out. You progress would still attract those of like passion who would believe in the reality of your dreams.

I remember as an undergraduate when I unavoidably miss lectures due to my dogged commitment to spiritual growth. I spent many of my weekends out of the University State for conferences and programs. I spent my early time in the morning and holidays on mountains to have a quality time alone with God. Missing lectures was like the order of the day. I remember vividly not attending lectures of some particular courses all through the semester. My colleagues showed concern, they counselling and adviced me to be committed to lectures. I understand by grace that during exam period that in hours I could assimilate what has been taught from the beginning of d semester. During the time of exams, I spend quality time alone with my book due to the understanding that I have not been committed to lectures.

In the long run, after writing the exams and some of my colleagues get to know that I passed with an outstanding results, the true intent of their heart was unveiled. Some get angry and withdraws from me. Some say I was seeing lecturers behind. Some called me “Jacob” that am a deceiver. I discovered that many of them were showing concern believing and wishing that I fail my exams. Not many of them were actually wishing me well.

When our head-way becomes visible, we will know the enemies amidst of our friends. “

I appreciate God for friends who believe in me, who have encouraged me and are still by my side giving the pace I need to do more daily.

LIVE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE BY DR. BIEN SUFFICIENT (PRESIDENT, Kingdom Lifestyle Movement, Ukraine Author “The Single, Ministry and Sexual Purity”)

We are living in a time where everybody have a say and an opinion about the life of another person without even knowing them or having facts.

They have an opinion on what they think you should do and how you should do it in order to be accepted. Anything other than what they think you should do, is automatically wrong.

People talk more this days than they can even think.

My dear friend, do not be carried away by what everyone have to say about your life, that you forget who you are.
If you want to know who you are, if you want to know what to do, then go to the Bible you will find all your answers. Look deep down within you in silence and serenity and you will surely discover who you truly are and what you are to do.

Be Careful of those you take advice from. Be watchful of who you tell your problems.
Not everyone is qualified to be a friend, even though you must be friendly to all.
# LiveToMakeAdifference.

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PART 2- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMITS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE.

PART 2- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMITS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE.

FALSE ATTENTION

“One of the mistakes we make in our relationship with others is giving attention to the people who do not deserve our attention”.

Not everyone that surrounds us that deserves our attention “like begets like”. We are to surround ourselves with people of like passion but not despising other people. Sometimes we permit false people into our lives because of our emotional imbalance.

I have learnt from experience and hurt from people over the years that it is not everyone that deserves my attention. No matter how raw the statement might sound, I don’t and I have learnt never to try pleasing everyone. I sieve and consider the kind of people I give my time to in conversations but I am approachable by everyone.

In courtship, it is advisable to be engaged to someone that deserves you not someone that demands you. Many are engaged to one another by demand. That someone demands you as a spouse does not mean that person deserves you. In the same vein, that someone demands your attention does not mean he/she deserves your attention.

In a world of lust for possessions, fame/popularity, beauty, immorality and all forms of decadence, many will demand your attention but such do not deserve you attention. Giving such unnecessary attention will limit you from giving attention to those who deserve it.

To be continued..

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PART 1- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMITS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE By Olawade David.

PART 1- THREE IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE THAT LIMITS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE.
“Almost every man wastes part of his life in attempts to display qualities he does not possess”- Samuel Johnson.
Like Samuel Johnson rightly said, every man tends to display qualities, character and countenance they do not possess. Individuals try to satisfy and please others in order in get attention that might rob them of their ideal personality.
Why display what you don’t possess? Why demonstrate a character that is not found in you? Often times, I have discovered from my relationships with people for decades that people’s outward display is not in consonant with the intent of their heart. Why give your neighbour a Hyena’s smile when you have a viper thought in you?

Sometimes, people should learn from the sincerely display from dog than the deceit of human. When a dog is angry even with the owner, he displays it directly in the presence of the owner by barking. It would bark until it gets out of its mind. Also, when at peace with its owner, it wags its tail, plays and embraces but we often see the opposite in humans.

Someone can be appreciating you by words but he is at grief in his or her heart. Someone can be commending you but he is envious of your result in what he is commending you. Why do we create atmosphere of deceit in relationships we find ourselves?

Our relationship with people is a choice and a product of decision. We can blame God for the kind of family we come from but we can’t blame God for the friends we keep. I made decision years ago not to be angry with what any man under heaven does to me on the note that the offence can only come if I permit it. I only get angry at myself for giving people the permission to offend me.

Every one can’t be your friend but we are mandated to love every man. Friendship requires conscious agreement between or among acting partners. The popular proverb, “show me you friend and I will tell you who you are” should be “show me your friend and I will tell you how far you will go”. The kind of friend that surrounds you might not be a reflection of who you truly are. You might be deceiving them or they are deceiving you.

The foundation of friendship is a function of the intent of the heart. Many have friends with wrong motives like considering only what to benefit from others, showing only to others what they can’t do, only happy when others remain a commoner. I have seen league of friends get angry when one of them is making a head-way in life. It was also observed among the disciples of Jesus (Matthew 20:20-24).

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STRETCH OUT A HELPING HAND TO SOMEONE IN NEED BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT

STRETCH OUT A HELPING HAND TO SOMEONE IN NEED BY Dr. BIEN SUFFICIENT
Let people have a reason to live again and keep hope alive because they meant you.
That is the whole essence of life! Make a difference in the lives of people and the world
around you.

When last did someone thank God because they meant you or say things like these:
( Thank God I Meant you. You are a God-sent to me. You made me smile again. I am
grateful to God for your life, you have given me another reason to live)? “For in as much
as yea has done it unto the one of the least of these my brethren, yea have done it
unto me” says Jesus.

There are too major kind of hunger in our world today. The hunger for food and the
hunger for love. The hunger for love and acceptance is on the increase in our world
today. Hence the increase in the rate of suicide.

Everybody wants to be loved, both the poor and the rich. Though money can satisfy
the hunger for food, it cannot satisfy the hunger for love. Only humans can!!!
Show love to the people around you, smile at them, give them a hug and ask them how
they are doing. It will not cost you anything most times to be kind to people. But just
your simple act of kindness can save a life and bring hope to another.

Everyone have different battles in life, some people kill themselves just because they
don’t have anyone to talk to or everyone around them are too busy to listen to them.
We live in a fast world today, everyone seems to be running around for one thing or the
other, and hence, we have lost the great virtue of love and care. Will you be the one to
give that person the listening ear he/she needs?

How many times have you past by someone crying and you just walked away without
trying to find out why they are crying, simply because “you are busy”. Have you past by
a hungry person without showing concern and even when they ask you for food, you
turn a deaf hear? Well then, you might need to give yourself a sincere answer. You can
never know how many people you will save, just by your act of kindness.

Remember, we are the light of the world. Don’t be too busy to the point you become
insensitive to the needs of those around you and others.

LET YOUR LIGHT SO SHINE!!!

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OTHERS BY OLAWADE JAMES

My brother writes, really inspired by this piece…
STOP COMPARING YOUR LIFE WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
When you begin to walk your own journey, to have your own unique conversation, you will naturally stop feeling envious of others. Not everyone you see living a glamorous lifestyles are real, even the so called celebs.

You should know that there is a big difference between doing well and pretending to do well, between being happy and pretending to be happy. You know how sometimes you tell yourself that you have a choice, but really you don’t have a choice, just because there are alternatives doesn’t mean they apply to you.

Because your friend earn 100k doesn’t mean you must earn same. Unfortunately, God made all varieties of people with a wide variety of interests and abilities,we all are not the same, what I Olawade James survived might kill you. Nothing should stop you from creating your own legacy, the only walls that exist are those you have placed in your mind and what ever obstacles you conceive, exist only because you have forgotten what you have already achieved.

Personality unveils when you stop showing off based on people’s opinion.
Great week ahead.
# BeUnique . # BeMemorable . # BeConfident . # BeProudOfYourself .
# EXCELLENCY CARES.